男女的不同 (溝通篇)

今天上課時 Prof.談到 男生和女生的溝通性格 有什麼不同
我list出我們課堂上討論的 想聽聽大家還有什麼看法XD

女性:
講話比較多
較詳細的形容
情緒化
inflection (有點不知道怎麼翻 形容不強硬的要求agreement)

男性:
直接
話題控制慾
客觀 (這部分我覺得是當義氣不involve的時候 XD)
選擇性接收訊息
解決問題oriented
(這項 老師提了一個example, 他說當女生傷心的時候 我們(Prof.也是女的)並不想聽你說, 這東西該如何解決 你怎麼樣做會比較好....他說 我們只想知道你們了解我們的情況就好...這讓我有點想懺悔...)

大家覺得男女生在溝通這方面還有什麼不同呢
或者個性也可以提出來 ~
個人覺得發現自己stupid的地方還蠻好玩的 XD

儅我傷心的時候...嗯...給我個很甜的東西...就好了...
我比較prefer行動而不是語言上的東西..

Jack wrote:今天上課時 Prof.談到 男生和女生的溝通性格 有什麼不同
我list出我們課堂上討論的 想聽聽大家還有什麼看法XD

女性:
講話比較多
較詳細的形容
情緒化
inflection (有點不知道怎麼翻 形容不強硬的要求agreement)

男性:
直接
話題控制慾
客觀 (這部分我覺得是當義氣不involve的時候 XD)
選擇性接收訊息
解決問題oriented
(這項 老師提了一個example, 他說當女生傷心的時候 我們(Prof.也是女的)並不想聽你說, 這東西該如何解決 你怎麼樣做會比較好....他說 我們只想知道你們了解我們的情況就好...這讓我有點想懺悔...)

大家覺得男女生在溝通這方面還有什麼不同呢
或者個性也可以提出來 ~
個人覺得發現自己stupid的地方還蠻好玩的 XD

Hm, can't read all these chinese letters...so, can u translate to English, if possible??

oops my bad :P
sorry about that

I was saying, a Prof. was discussing with us about the differentiation of communication characteristic between men and women.

And these are the lists we discussed in the lecture

Women:
More verbal
Emotional
Descriptive
Inflection

Men:
Straight forward
More control
objective
selective toward information receiving
solve problems

and what else? :P~

Jack wrote:oops my bad :P
sorry about that

I was saying, a Prof. was discussing with us about the differentiation of communication characteristic between men and women.

And these are the lists we discussed in the lecture

Women:
More verbal
Emotional
Descriptive
Inflection

Men:
Straight forward
More control
objective
selective toward information receiving
solve problems

and what else? :P~

And the question is:
what's your perspective toward communication between men and women?

For the situation Jack mention, if a girl has a bad mood, she isn't want anyone
to recommend her what to do, because she just want someone to listen what
she has in mind. That's simple. XD (hope my translation is understandable)

For me, when I'm stress out or unhappy,
I like to stay at a quiet place, and think.
Sometimes it's hard for me to share to someone,
but if I do, I hope the person can be a listener more than a talker.
And one important thing is"she or he need to be very positive"
That's all i care~ haha

What about u guys?

In general, I agree with the list of differences b/w men & women, but what exactly does inflection mean in that context??

Your translation is very understandable. It reminds me of some people I know, lol.

Yea, I think I would do pretty much the same thing as Kevin. Or, if I get the chance I would also do something like what k1y0 said. Like playing badminton (a lot better with friends)^^

hahaha...
most of the girls prefer people to actually do sth rather than just talk..
it's just like..making a promise is easy..but keeping it is hard..
u can say sth nice to make people feel better..
but u cant never change the fact that u would still get into the same problem if u are only able to talk but not actually doing it...

k1y0 wrote:hahaha...
most of the girls prefer people to actually do sth rather than just talk..
it's just like..making a promise is easy..but keeping it is hard..
u can say sth nice to make people feel better..
but u cant never change the fact that u would still get into the same problem if u are only able to talk but not actually doing it...

Yeah, it's easy to say, and super hard to act.
Trying to learn not to promise people too much, but once give out the promise,
then the goal is to do them all!

Being a human being, we always run into same problem again and again, even thought we know that's wrong already, but we still do it. It's like a circle with small ones and big ones. Cuz we r not PERFECT!

which result in people making no promise XD

突然讓我想起..."I love the way you lie..."

kevinhave wrote:
Yeah, it's easy to say, and super hard to act.
Trying to learn not to promise people too much, but once give out the promise,
then the goal is to do them all!

Being a human being, we always run into same problem again and again, even thought we know that's wrong already, but we still do it. It's like a circle with small ones and big ones. Cuz we r not PERFECT!

Being imperfect has its own huge set of problems, but at the same time, being imperfect also allows us to connect and support each other. Cuz if we were all perfect then we wouldn't necessarily need others at all. No acquaintances, friends or prob family. (I think i'm being a bit extreme here,lol) By the way, this is all just speculation from me.

Anyway, YTSA Orientation is soon! Wish all the best for it!

kevinhave wrote:

k1y0 wrote:hahaha...
most of the girls prefer people to actually do sth rather than just talk..
it's just like..making a promise is easy..but keeping it is hard..
u can say sth nice to make people feel better..
but u cant never change the fact that u would still get into the same problem if u are only able to talk but not actually doing it...

Yeah, it's easy to say, and super hard to act.
Trying to learn not to promise people too much, but once give out the promise,
then the goal is to do them all!

Being a human being, we always run into same problem again and again, even thought we know that's wrong already, but we still do it. It's like a circle with small ones and big ones. Cuz we r not PERFECT!

yea...but its usually really easy for ppl to give out promises...especially when they make someone angry or upset..most of the time..they will go "i wont do it again"..so to me..most of the time it just looks like a promise but not an actual one..think of it that way...u wont be mad or upset more next time it happen again..

making a mistake is okay..repeating it would be a bit hard if u repeat it on the same person...so i usually just try not to make it look as bad as the last time i did..until..i wont do it again..>.>

Jack wrote:which result in people making no promise XD

really..?

alam wrote:

kevinhave wrote:
Yeah, it's easy to say, and super hard to act.
Trying to learn not to promise people too much, but once give out the promise,
then the goal is to do them all!

Being a human being, we always run into same problem again and again, even thought we know that's wrong already, but we still do it. It's like a circle with small ones and big ones. Cuz we r not PERFECT!

Being imperfect has its own huge set of problems, but at the same time, being imperfect also allows us to connect and support each other. Cuz if we were all perfect then we wouldn't necessarily need others at all. No acquaintances, friends or prob family. (I think i'm being a bit extreme here,lol) By the way, this is all just speculation from me.

Anyway, YTSAY Orientation is soon! Wish all the best for it!

to the last line of ur msg...YTSA ROCKS..!!!!!

k1y0 wrote:

to the last line of ur msg...YTSA ROCKS..!!!!!

Wow, u guys come out with so many good points.

like Alam said, We are all imperfect, that's the reason why we need to be in the team, to help out each other!

like Kiyo said, when we do things wrong is ok, but we need to know and remember what we had done wrong, and avoid it to happen again.

Don't give out promise that u can fulfill

Don't lie to others cuz it will make the result even worst.

Don't talk behind others back, it's not respectful.

However, like what Kiyo had said

YTSA Rocks!

i truly believe we are all born with good intentions and that we all try not to "wrong" others but everything has 2 sides so you can't simply say one person is at fault.

we all grow up with different values and beliefs. how we weigh and prioritize each value and belief will become the difference amongst ourselves.

i don't think avoiding a problem helps. u have to find a solution by trying to understand each other more

i'm looking forward to a great year with YTSA!

kevinhave wrote:Wow, u guys come out with so many good points.

like Alam said, We are all imperfect, that's the reason why we need to be in the team, to help out each other!

like Kiyo said, when we do things wrong is ok, but we need to know and remember what we had done wrong, and avoid it to happen again.

Don't give out promise that u can fulfill

Don't lie to others cuz it will make the result even worst.

Don't talk behind others back, it's not respectful.

However, like what Kiyo had said

YTSA Rocks!

xDDDDDDD